Are you Widowed or Divorced?
Are You Ready to Explore a Relationship, Thinking About Dating, or Finding a New Companion or Partner?
This is a service for widowed and divorced people, who are lonely and thinking about exploring new relationships, about dating, and maybe even finding a companion or partner. Then my Widowed and Divorced: Exploring Relationships aka Perfect Panache Profiles Program might be right for you.
Have you experienced the loss of your spouse, partner and relationship? Have you reached the point where you don’t want to be alone in your life any longer?
If you are a widow or widower, you may feel you have done most of your grief work, and though you still very much miss your spouse or significant other, you know he or she would not want you to be alone for the rest of your life. If you are divorced, and were married for some time, you may feel rusty and intimidated by the prospected of getting out there and dating again.
Perhaps you have no idea what to do, how to act, or how to navigate the world of on line dating that you hear so much about. You may be terrified of the whole idea, whether it’s the social or sexual aspect of meeting someone new.
You know the world has changed and that online dating is the rule now, but you have no idea where to begin, or how to create a profile that is honest, though will attract the kinds of people you would like to attract. In fact, you may not even be sure of the type of people you really do want to attract!
Did You Know?
Pew Research Center reports that in 1995, when one of the biggest on line dating sites, Match.com, opened, only 14% of US adults used the Internet, and there were very few options for on line dating.
I will share here (and hope that is ok with you) that I met my husband of now more than 20 years, through a personal ad, which was the predecessor of the on line dating site process. I was widowed young, and had been alone for years. Friends convinced me to try it. I was skeptical, and even resistant, but when I wrote my ad, I got many hundreds of responses. I couldn’t quite believe it. It was overwhelming and I was pretty scared. I had no idea how I was going to find time to meet some of these men, or what was a good and safe way to do that. I did some soul-searching about my hopes, my needs and my limitations and made a plan. The rest is history!
Now, social research tells us that in the next 20 years, 50% of couples are expected to meet on line, and 55-64 year olds are predicted to have the biggest dating boom. When I ran the adoption agency I directed for decades, I was surprised to learn that many of my adoptive couples had met through either personal ads, or on line dating.
Of course, on line dating isn’t the only way to meet new friends, and new possible partners, but it sure is growing in popularity. For those who have been “off the market”, or part of a couple for a very long time, the prospect of getting out there and meeting new people in any way at all, is enough to strike fear into the hearts of even those who have lived through, and proudly survived some really tough life experiences, whether they lost a spouse through death, or lost a marriage or long term relationship through a painful break-up or divorce.
This Is Where I Come In
Perhaps you have already had counseling, whether grief counseling, or other types of therapy. Perhaps you have even had a life coach like me, to help you figure out your new normal, how to get through and beyond your losses, and make plans for the future.
You may have been so overwhelmed by so many things, that you weren’t ready then to get out into the social and dating world. Now you are, and you need some help, but you don’t feel you require extensive, prolonged coaching.
I will help you. I am offering for this program:
Mature Dating Option 1
(2) extended 90 minute to two hour phone coaching sessions
You will figure out your biggest roadblocks, concerns or fears, and we will come up with some fixes, or ways to make things easier and more comfortable for you.
You will determine who the people are you truly want to attract, and will make a game plan.
We will use a variety of other tools and techniques, based on what seems best for you. A coach can help you achieve your goals and dreams using creative tools and questions that make you think and delve beneath the surface of things.
I will help you create your mate-attracting, positive, but honest profile, if you are ready to go that route (Your Perfect Panache Profile). All of the sites have different formats and we will talk about that. I will give you feedback on anything you have already created.
We will discuss researching different types of sites and meet-up groups that can meet your individual needs, and fit your interests, personality and values, as much as possible.
You will emerge with greater confidence and some tools for getting out there into the new social arena.
Mature Dating Option 2
All of the above, plus I will be available to you for( 2-3) 30 minute phone check-ins, and unlimited email check-in’s for three months after we finish our sessions, so you won’t feel abandoned and without support, plus access to my private cell phone number.
Disclaimer: Each person’s experiences and results are unique to them. What you will achieve from coaching entirely depends on your goals, your openness with Coach Iris, and the degree of effort you contribute to the coaching process. There are no guarantees, overt or otherwise, that you will find a new mate or love interest, but you will learn some things about yourself, about how to overcome some obstacles and how to navigate the social/dating scene if you are serious about doing that.
Due to the individual nature of your motivation, skills, and willingness to engage in new ways of thinking, Coach Iris can make no guarantees about your personal outcome.
Don’t Think You Are Ready For On-Line Dating?
Don’t worry. I can still help you. Maybe this just isn’t your style, or you are too fearful at the moment to even explore it? I can work with you to build your confidence, and to proceed in a way that feels right for you.